2025 In’s and Outs

I adore a good in’s and out’s list. I make one every month as a general rules to live by kind of thing and this one for 2025 I’m sharing with you. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t and if you feel drawn to share what is going to be in or out for you in 2025 I want to hear it!

In:

• Accessorizing

  • Confession: I hate the clean girl aesthetic. I want to see people dripping in accessories. Wear that statement necklace you got in 2016 or that little hair scarf that's collecting dust in the bottom drawer of your dresser. Find what called out to you when you bought that weird hat and wear it again. There is something so chic about decorating yourself and finding what pieces become your staple and personal style can only be found through trial and error. What makes you feel most you? (if the answer is the clean girl aesthetic you should disregard this point entirely)

• Brick and Mortar

  • One of my biggest resolutions is not to fall prey to overconsumption. The ease of online shopping makes me buy things I don’t need and honestly sometimes I realize I don’t even want. Added bonus of the phenomenal vibes of walking down the street shopping bag in hand.

• Sobriety

  • from all things addicting. As a girl obsessed with self improvement I’ve come to realize that maybe healing isn’t about becoming better all the time but maybe about just learning to like yourself as is. In doing that you have to see yourself as is, no alcohol, no drugs, no drunk cigarettes, no social media doom scrolling, just sitting and existing (hard!!! but worth a shot).

• A Bold Lip

  • Enough said. Mouths are for talking, kissing, and being admired. Show it off.

    

• Literature (consuming/ creating)

  • The rise of the cool literary girl in a babydoll nightgown and bare feet on dew-covered grass flipping through Dostoevsky is BACK baby. Read, write, share, let the world be bigger than yourself.

• Effort

  • Being nonchalant is so out. Loving people fully, going out of your way for others and yourself, the act of doing things means something. I got so lost in convenience that I forgot all the pleasure that exists in inconvenience. I want to hand crush my cardamom and ginger for my chai even if I have to wake up a little early, I want to cook my own dinner and relish in the fact I made it myself even if some days I cannot for the life of me pinpoint what went so wrong with the recipe, I want to tell people that I like them, I think they’re cool, and I want to spend time with them and if they don’t share my sentiment I will wave goodbye and know that I tried. I want to do things I’m bad at until I’m good at them, or even just slightly less bad.

• Romance

  • in all its forms. Let’s hold hands when we walk down the street, let’s share an appetizer or a drink, let’s watch the sunrise together and write each other letters and not tell each other when we mail them so there’s a little surprise waiting in the mailroom. Smiling at waiters, asking strangers at the monuments if I can take their picture, kisses to the girl in the mirror and everyone else in life.

Out:

• Feeling bad for saying no

  • No is a complete sentence! One that needs to be said. A strong firm reminder to myself that I don’t owe people my time or my friendship (not in an anti community kind of way but in a way that if people expect/ ask things of me that are beyond my bandwidth I can and should say No (no explanation needed))

• Embarrassment

  • I actually have started to believe embarrassment isn’t even real. I was telling a friend a story the other day and they were like “oh my god that's so embarrassing”. Was it?? I didn’t really think so I just thought it was funny. Embarrassment is a choice. We are all just people, we all do silly things, it truly cannot be that deep. Embarrassment is about other people's opinions. If you do what you want, you can stand on your actions (even if you regret them) and you can own them (free of embarrassment).

• AI

  • Now that is actually embarrassing. Yes, I understand that ChatGPT is a brilliant invention but I will also judge you if you cannot write a paper, create a schedule, or learn more about topics without using ChatGPT. Hello Brain Rot!!! Why aren’t we thinking anymore? Would much rather read a badly written piece of writing than something computer generated. I want to feel things!! I want to know what other people feel! I don’t care about computers!!

• Orthorexia

  • Yes, we’re prioritizing our health but no we are not turning down sweets or things with high calorie counts or fat content in the name of health. True healthy eating is neutrality towards food and a push to increase the good stuff on our plates, not eliminating the things that bring joy.

• Straight Across Bangs

  • I’m sorry. I got bangs this year and while incredibly chic, the UPKEEP!! It’s too much. Bangs had their moment. I’m no trend predictor but I think 2025 is going to be the year of the Gracie Abrams bob and that Mahogany brown color (which is a slay because you can achieve it no bleach).

• Operating Rooms

  • Personal, specific, and probably not very relatable to others. But for me, 2025 is the year I never step into an operating room again. Thank God! For others operating rooms in 2025 is so in and I am your biggest fan for it but from down the hallway and maybe even a floor or two away. kisses from afar!